Dear Amy: My ex and I have a long history, and I guess we are (sort of) friends. We both loved each other very much but we fought way too much, which made the relationship impossible.
I have moved on to someone else, and I am pretty happy. However, I feel as if my current relationship isn't as fun and passionate as my old one.
I think my ex has noticed this and is trying to get close to me once again. He recently invited me to the movies as "just friends."
Should I go? Or is it a bad move?
— Ex and friend
Dear Friend: Let me answer by referencing a favorite quote from one of my favorite movies — the 1975 summertime classic, "Jaws."
"This is not a boat accident."
What I'm getting at is that if you are Richard Dreyfuss lifting a severed arm out of a stainless steel pan, you get to call it like you see it, by pointing out the obvious.
In this regard, I'm Richard Dreyfuss, your nascent "friendship" with your ex is the severed arm and your trip to the movies is like swimming in open water with a giant, man-eating shark.
Potentially exciting. Very risky.
Dear Amy: My older sister is getting married. Her fiancé and his family are a very Christian conservative family and mine is extremely liberal.
I am gay. I received an email from my sister saying that she did not think it was right for me to attend her wedding. They say they do not agree with my "lifestyle." OK, it is her special day. I am fine with her choice.
When my mother learned I wasn't invited, she was outraged and extremely offended.
Now my family will not attend my sister's wedding, and my sister and her new fiancé say that it is all my fault.
— Gay Brother
Dear Gay Brother: I can completely understand your family's choice to not attend this wedding out of solidarity with you, because denying your attendance seems to be a denial — not only of your family's values, but of you.
Your graciousness is commendable. Email your sister: "I realize this is your special day and understand completely that you feel strongly about me not being there. I completely accept your choice and have told other family members this. I hope you don't change your core values to suit your new family. I'll never stop being your loving brother and wish you and your fiancé all the best."
Don't bother talking your mother into attending. When you're a parent, you'll understand how she feels.