Dear Amy: Awhile ago I found out that my wife was texting a co-worker. She does not delete anything off her phone, but she did delete these texts to this guy (who is younger and single), making it very suspicious. This caused a major rift in our relationship, and I am slowly getting over it.
They were in frequent communication across various avenues: Words with Friends, calls on their cellphones, Facebook, etc.
Now they have ceased all communication that they used to have. They are no longer Facebook friends, no more games on their phones, no cellphone calls — nothing!
I know that they talk frequently at work, but the lack of any communication that I can see and the change in what they used to do makes me suspicious.
I feel like they're being sneaky about this relationship, and that continues to eat at me.
We recently ran into him when we were out for the night, and he was obviously uncomfortable and left quickly.
Am I overreacting for being suspicious about this?
— Still suspicious
Dear Suspicious: You were suspicious when your wife and this guy were in touch, and now that they are not in touch, you are … suspicious.
This reveals an insidious issue in your marriage. You and your wife are circling each other when you should be driving through the heart of this.
The best way to do this is with a seasoned marriage counselor. You need clarity to tamp down your suspicions, and she needs to be honest and completely transparent about this other relationship.
Dear Amy: My co-workers and I don't know how to handle a particular problem involving my boss. He is truly The Boss from Hell. We never know if we are saying "good morning" to Dr. Jekyll or Mr. Hyde.
It's an emotional roller-coaster ride. He yells at his employees at the top of his voice at the slightest infraction, even when there are clients in the office. He then forgets all about it. We, however, never forget being embarrassed in front of each other or clients. Many of us are looking for other jobs.
Dear Working: Given your boss' behavior, it is surprising he has any clients left. Now that online reviews influence so many consumer choices, if a client witnesses this, he could be placing the business in jeopardy.
If someone other than your boss owns this business, then this person should be told about your boss' actions.