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Pregnant woman wants to help childless friends

I’m pregnant and am lucky to have several supportive friends. Some of these friends are unable to have children of their own for various reasons. Is there anything I can do or say to express my sympathy? How can I let them know that I’d welcome them to be a part of my child’s life?

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Woman upsets household by finally moving out

I am a 32-year-old woman living at home with my parents, grandmother and college-age brother. Last year, I had to give up my room when my grandmother moved in with us. This year, my brother moved back home to attend a local college, so I had to give up that room, too.

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Adult daughter of alcoholic continues to struggle

I am an adult professional woman with two teenage children. I am divorced, and the survivor of an abusive alcoholic mother. I have been through years of counseling and have struggled with anxiety my entire life. My relationship with my mother has always been my burden.

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Daughter wants to shut down parental insults

When I was growing up, my father called me terrible names, almost always centered on insulting my intelligence (calling me “stupid,” a “nitwit,” etc.). When I did well in college, he questioned how challenging my school was. I’m now 50 and it continues.

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Friend wants to deliver elder assessment

When my late father was ill, I always appreciated hearing comments from friends who visited Dad, since I didn’t live with him. I’ve had two occasions where I have noticed some concerning things about the parents of two of my friends. I shared my observations with these friends, and both did not receive it very well.

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Woman may have caught online ‘catfish’

I met this guy five years ago on an online video game. He has suddenly gotten in touch with me after five years, and has confessed that he’s been in love with me the whole time. Things got serious very fast, and I feel I have fallen for him.

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Sister doesn’t seem like family

I have a younger sister, “Tammy,” who was very cruel to me when we were growing up. Because of her abuse, I left home at 17, and since that time, have grown out of the self-hate that she drilled into me. I’ve built a very strong network of friends, who I now think of as my family.

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Playdate mom worries about toddler

I am the parent of a 2-year-old, and I have regular playdates with several other moms and their toddlers. One of these friends has a toddler, “Jimmy,” who seems to exhibit many of the early signs of being on the autism spectrum.

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Scorned woman now faces taking care of ex

My mother is 63 years old. She just ended a tumultuous three-year relationship with a man who cheated on her, lied to her and stole money from her. This is her first long-term relationship since my father died of complications from Lewy body dementia with Parkinson’s more than six years ago.

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Grieving girl seeks solace after loss

I am an 11-year-old girl and my father recently passed away. I am very mature for my age and I have an autistic brother. I feel like I should take care of my brother during these hard times, but I’m worried that my mom will remarry and that I'll have a stepfather, since before my father passed, he and my mom filed for divorce.

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Teen wants to stop Skyping, start visiting

I turned 16 this summer, but have gotten into a state of disagreement with my mother on a single issue. For nearly two years I’ve kept in touch with a girl from Georgia. I live in New England. For the past few months I’ve been fostering a long-distance relationship via Skype with her, and it has become a personal goal for both of us to someday meet in person.

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Friend becomes possessive regarding friend’s romance

My best friend wants to travel with me. I told her I could do a weekend trip somewhere, but that isn’t good enough for her. I don’t want to do an expensive, exotic trip with her. I’d feel guilty doing this while my boyfriend works. Secondly, I want to experience these “bucket list” items with him.

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Mom does the cooking, Dad worries about financial drain

Six months ago our oldest daughter’s husband, “John,” walked out on her and their two kids (20 and 15) for another woman. Since he left, it has become obvious he is an alcoholic and not the person we thought him to be. He quit his job. He tells the kids he is trying to get a job, but nothing has panned out. He is not paying any support.

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Younger friend worries about elder’s decline

I have become friends with the woman who held my job before me. We email every few weeks, trade books and have lunch quarterly and on our birthdays. She is 75. I am 38. Recently, her health has been in great decline. She is battling breast cancer and I believe she has dementia.

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