Dear Amy: My teenage daughter and her cousins have a 40-year-old aunt who has a Facebook page.
This aunt routinely posts baby pictures of the kids, and frequently comments on their pages, writing on their "walls" and interjecting into their communication with their peers.
Not only are the kids embarrassed by the pictures of them their aunt has posted, but also they do not like their aunt being a part of their social network via the Internet.
While one niece has blocked this aunt and another has refused to "friend" her, my daughter is too intimidated to block her aunt.
How should these children respectfully get their aunt to stop checking on them via Facebook, short of blocking her?
Talking with her is futile; she already knows her nieces and nephews are offended by her comments and postings, and this has not stopped her.
I think the kids should be able to go on Facebook without having to worry about their aunt intervening in their "conversations." What do you think?
-- Too old for Facebook
Dear Too Old: There are plenty of middle-age people capable of navigating on Facebook, but the experience is easier for everyone if the older generation accepts that Facebook "rules" are dictated by people who want to be able to reveal all -- but don't want for anyone else to violate their "privacy."
It's tricky.
If this aunt wants to play with the kids, she's going to have to suffer the slings and arrows of adolescence, right along with them.
They've tried to be respectful, and she has not complied. They should refuse to "friend" -- or block -- her. A block is a wordless wall of virtual bricks. Blocking is not impolite; it's neutral.
If the aunt in question wants to find out why she has been blocked, she can ask.
While I do feel that all of the teenagers involved here should be able to tolerate a small amount of virtual cheek-pinching, the adult should think about how she would feel if someone posted her baby pictures on the Web without her permission.
The young family members might be able to handle this by sending their aunt a friendly, funny video, telling her that they're blocking her from Facebook -- but saying that they look forward to letting her torture them in person over the holidays.
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