Dear Amy: I am getting married next month, and my fiancé and I are selecting readings for our wedding. I would like to include a reading -- perhaps from Mildred Loving -- that openly expresses support for gay couples to marry, just as I have the right and honor to do so. Many of our guests, however, are conservative or elderly and not likely to share my beliefs on this matter.
I would find it difficult to let the day pass without a public recognition that everyone deserves the right to marry his or her life partner, but I don't want to make my guests feel as if I am deliberately antagonizing them. What are your thoughts?
-- Indecisive Bride
Dear Bride: The short answer: This is your wedding, and within fairly loose boundaries, you and your guy can do as you choose -- certainly if the officiant agrees to it.
The other answer: This freedom leads some couples to commit various cultural and artistic atrocities.
This choice seems somewhat patronizing, but surely your reading wouldn't be more antagonizing than another couple's choice to sing a medley of Carpenters' hits.
If you want to use your special day to proselytize and educate your family and friends about your views on marriage, then go for it, but be prepared for at least one congregant to figuratively (if not actually) roll his or her eyes.
Your wedding day presents the ultimate opportunity to be a gracious, inclusive and loving host. The best hosts don't take every opportunity to lecture their guests, even when they are basically a captive audience.
Dear Amy: My boss told me that I looked like an actress in a popular movie. I didn't think much of it. In fact, I took it as a compliment, but I was curious to see what she looked like, so I Googled her.
I was shocked to see that she is truly ugly. I am freaked out and think he was mean for telling me.
Please tell me what I should do.
-- Freaked Out
Dear Freaked: This is why bosses should never comment on underlings' looks. It just leads to trouble. You shouldn't do anything. Understand that you may have misinterpreted your boss's comment, and let it go.
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