Ask Amy: High school is high anxiety

FresnoOctober 31, 2013 

Dear Amy: I'm a freshman in high school. So far, my experience hasn't been that great. I've been so stressed out and had to go to the doctor several times because the stress is causing me to have bad headaches.

I've looked into home schooling/online schooling and learned it isn't bad.

Since starting high school, I've had breakdowns that I've never ever had before.

I'm afraid of asking or even bringing up home schooling to my parents because I feel they might laugh and say it's a very stupid idea.

— Stressed freshman

Dear Stressed: Before dropping out of school entirely, you will need to notify all of the adults in your life about what is really going on with you, so that they can work together (and with you) to arrive at strategies for you to cope.

If you are too afraid to go to your parents, you should start with another trusted adult (your school counselor and/or another friend or relative).

Dear Amy:

When I got engaged last year, my now-husband and I went to visit his parents. His mother was gracious enough to present me with a lovely 2-carat diamond ring from her safe deposit box.

She said she wanted me to have it because I love her son. I was thrilled because it meant acceptance into the family.

Unfortunately, six months ago I took it to get cleaned by a jeweler, who informed me that the diamond ring I loved so much was a fake. I was shocked.

His parents are coming to visit next month. What shall I say when she doesn't see me wearing her ring? I don't want to seem like an ingrate and hurt her feelings, but at the same time I can't feel as proud of this ring as I once did.

— Disappointed

Dear Disappointed: My first recommendation is for you to get a second opinion from another jeweler — and bring your husband with you.

His mother should be told about this — it could have ramifications for her in other ways (she might need to get other pieces of jewelry professionally appraised). She may be embarrassed, but be honest, calm and understanding.

Frankly, you do sound a little bit like an ingrate; this situation is no one's fault, and — real or fake — the ring still symbolizes (or should symbolize) the exact same thing it did when it was presented

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