Dear Amy: I recently entered into a relationship with a married man. At first, I was OK with it because I believed his explanation of why he's still married — immigration purposes.
We have had some great times that are filled with activities we enjoy, including intimate relations.
As time has passed, I have learned that his marriage isn't as he described it to me. It's not so much a marriage of convenience as he said it was.
I'm worried that our relationship is icky, especially when I think about it afterward.
I spend a lot of time in his home eating meals his wife has cooked for him.
I want to ask him about this point-blank, but I don't want to risk losing this guy, who happens to be very caring and attentive.
Should I walk away, ignore his texts and find someone else?
— The other woman
Dear Other Woman: If you can spend time at the house this man shares with his wife and eat meals she has cooked — and it only occurs to you later how "icky" this is — then I'd say you need to adjust your ick-o-meter.
The idea is to be icked out by things in advance of doing them.
Your guy is a liar and a cheat. Walking away sounds like a good idea.
Dear Amy: I loved your response to "Heartbroken Dad," a single parent raising his adopted 14-year-old son.
I especially related to the lines, "Do not expect him to express gratitude to you.
His sole job is to grow up well (and that is a tough job for any child)."
I am the stepmom of a challenging 13-year-old — she has autism as well as other disorders.
While parenting has many rewards, in a small part of my heart I've been hoping for a "thanks for being the mother my own mother isn't."
What you wrote put it all in perspective.
Dear Stepmom: I often note that stepparents can be the real unsung heroes in a child's life. It sounds like your teen hit the jackpot.
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