Dear Amy: I am the grandmother of three beautiful children, ages 4, 6 and 10, whom I live with and help raise.

Their mother (my daughter) has been involved in approximately six relationships over the past three years, with a two- to three-week interval between relationships.

I am wondering if it is a good idea for her to have these men sleeping in her bed every night, visible to the kids, and also whether it is OK for the kids to sleep with her and the men.

I am looking for an objective answer.

-- Grandmother

Dear Grandmother: It is not good for the children to have six different men in their lives and living in the home with them. I also think it is a terrible idea to have children sleeping alongside two adults who I presume are sexually active. Having men unrelated to the children passing through the home places them at risk. This is also emotionally confusing.

You are also living in the home. I assume you have raised this issue and that your daughter either does not agree with your opinion or does not care what you think.

You are essentially co-parenting the children with your daughter but have no say in a very basic issue such as who lives in the house with you. Nor do the children have a say in the matter.

You and your daughter could benefit from attending parenting classes together. That way you could both receive objective in-person opinions (and perhaps mediation) on what is best for the children. However, this is a matter of common sense; your daughter either doesn't possess this very basic judgment or is simply too selfish to care. I hope you can continue to advocate for the children.

Dear Amy: I'm responding to the letter from "Joan," the 50-year-old woman who received money from her mother and can't decide whether to take a trip to India or bank the money for retirement.

When faced with two equally valid paths, I choose both. Perhaps there is a tour group to India that may cost less or she could go during the off-season. This way she could still go on the trip and at the same time, put some money away for her future.

-- Shelley

Dear Shelley: "When faced with two equally valid paths, I choose both." Very wise! Thank you.