Dear Amy: Over the weekend, I uploaded photos from my recent wedding to Facebook so that our guests could enjoy them. A short time after I posted them, a friend sent me a private message on Facebook requesting that I remove a picture of her and her husband sitting at their table. She said she preferred not to have her photograph on the Internet for others to see. I respect that and took it down.
After I took it down, it suddenly struck me as odd that this friend would communicate this with me via Facebook. Out of curiosity, I clicked on her page. The only thing there was her profile picture -- of her three children!
I find it shocking that someone so opposed to having her own picture on the Internet would purposefully post pictures of her children instead! What do you think about this?
-- Baffled bride
Dear Baffled: I think you are choosing to be shocked about something that is not at all shocking.
You seem determined to brand this friend a hypocrite and catch her in some sort of double standard. You were accommodating to her (well done!), and now you need to move on.
Dear Amy: My spouse and I have a 21-year-old son who graduated from high school in 2010. He spent his first year on academic probation and failed every single one of his classes. He then moved back home and got a full-time job at the same fast-food restaurant he worked at when he was in high school.
He has since taken a few community college classes, passing with C's and D's. He is now taking management classes at the fast-food restaurant and one online class. He spends all of his free time playing "World of Warcraft" online -- and seems very content.
As parents, should we encourage him to further his education or to seek different employment? Or do we simply stand back and let him grow up on his own?
-- Flummoxed parents
Dear Flummoxed: Your son isn't exactly setting the world aflame, but if he has a full-time job, is taking management training and additional college classes, then he's doing middlin'.
One thing to strategize about (and save up for) would be for him to move out and be self-supporting.
You should urge him to realize his own goals, even if they are more modest than you would like, and let the growing-up part of his life continue.
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