Dear Amy: My boyfriend "Don" and I have decided that I'll be moving to where he lives as soon as I finish grad school in a few months. We're planning to live together with our two dogs.

The trouble is that my boyfriend's parents do not approve of their children living with a significant other before marriage.

How should we handle this?

-- Soon to be cohabiting

Dear Soon: Don should tell his parents about these plans.

Telling his parents gives all of you the option of completely avoiding or ignoring the issue.

If his parents control him through their disapproval and the fear of blowing up, this does not bode well.

Dear Amy: I'm in high school. We are all starting to drive.

One of my friends has her learner's permit and is driving herself places without an adult in the car. Sometimes she has friends in the car while she is driving. Her parents are oblivious.

Another friend of mine has had her license for six months. She is giving rides to another one of my friends, which is against the law in my state.

I understand how cool it is to be driving alone or with friends without parents, but I know better than to do any of this. I worry that if I don't try to do something and if something bad happens, it will be my fault.

But what am I supposed to do?

-- Waiting for something to happen

Dear Waiting: Your worries are completely appropriate.

According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, motor vehicle crashes are the leading cause of death for teens ages 15 to 19. Crashes are highest during the first year a teen has a license.

These deaths (and 350,000 injuries each year) are preventable -- and adults who close their eyes to graduated licensing laws are responsible.

Talk to your folks. They should join with other concerned parents and work with your school to reinforce these lifesaving laws.

Dear Amy: You were way too hard on "Fence Sitter," who was having an affair and wanted to leave his long-term marriage. You called him a liar, and that's not right. You have no idea what his marriage is really like.

-- Disgusted

Dear Disgusted: "Fence Sitter" called himself a liar when he revealed that he was having an affair while he was also seeing a marriage counselor to save his long marriage.

I encouraged him to hop off the fence and be honest -- and I hope he will do so.